Trusting myself enough to let go, in an effort to better connect and grow.
I returned from LA a few weeks ago. What a fantastic time with The Vintage Pilates staff, and other “Work” participants. I feel so blessed to be a part of this beautiful like-minded yet diverse community. My understanding of how I can use the method of Pilates to better myself in “The Work” is coming together and I know this is just the beginning. In this post I will be reflecting on the idea of connection; how can we better connect all our pieces to what or whomever we are interacting with, to better understand ourselves?
Jay Grimes, Pilates elder, along with the amazing Vintage Pilates Teachers for “The Work”, will usually never end a session without first saying; “do not neglect your ‘partner’” (meaning the apparatus; whether that be the reformer, the chair, barrels, cadillac, guillotine, ped-a-pul, etc). Jay would then typically follow this statement by saying “KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT and JUST MOVE.”
Although not a Jay Grimes nor a Vintage Pilates saying, this next quote(also a favorite of mine from the movie “EAT, PRAY, LOVE”) complements what I believe Jay and my teachers for “The Work” are saying…
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that’s holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person that you will ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. Soul mates, they come into your life to reveal another layer of yourself to you.”
I think Jay and my other teachers of “the Work” would agree that their idea of a ‘partner’ is our ‘soulmate.’ We should then treat the apparatus we are using with that awareness and allow it to teach us something about ourselves. The more connections we make with our ‘partner’ the more lessons we should receive. Hopefully, we come away from our workout or our interaction having learned something about who we are. Perhaps also discovering something we need to work on. Can’t have one without the other.
I believe finding more connection is different for everyone. Perhaps for some of you, the struggle lies in concentrating on connecting to your “partner”; for others it is trusting what your partner is revealing to you and giving in to this trust as you continue… Personally, after this past trip to LA, I am discovering that when I trust more in my “partner” and act more instinctual I am able to make stronger connections and learn more. Listening and trusting what I feel is right and acting accordingly is definitely hard work, but I believe a challenge worth fighting for. Be persistent and listen to yourself!
How about you? How do you stay connected to your “partner?” Do you need to trust more in yourself to connect all your pieces like me? Maybe you just need more of a steady effort? Some need more of one than the other. We all need to find our own ratio.
I hope you all can trust your “partner” and continue to strengthen and make new connections that bring meaning to you. Every day is a new day and another opportunity to expand your awareness and your connections and put the little pieces together one by one. If you feel disconnected and loose your pieces trust your partner more! Can you trust and listen to what your connections are telling you and act accordingly? Takes a lot of courage to follow through! You can do it! I believe in you:).
Do it right, keep it tight!
ps – check out the song “Pieces” by Andrew Belle